"I Love You...What's Your Name?"
"One night I was putting him to bed and he said, "I
hope you're getting a lot less nookie that I am
getting". It was priceless! And a few months ago, he
was peeing on the rug right there in front of me and
I was angry. I mean, there are times when it doesn't
bother me if he's peeing on the rug and there are
times when it makes me crazy. So I was on the floor
cleaning it up and he was standing right there. And I
was mad and I said (exasperated) "do you ever have
compassion for me!" And he said, "I do. Briefly and
in small amounts". Of course that just broke the
tension. So those kinds of things happen often enough
that it's a balm for me. And he's sweet and he's
affectionate and he knows who I am most of the time.
One of his lines was "I love you, what's your name"."
In the past 25 years, caregiver stress and burden has
been the subject of intense focus, while the effect
of the experience of one's sense of self has received
minimal attention.
This book explores and describes how women create
meaning in the caregiving role, how caregiving is
integrated into a person's sense of self and the
consequences of a caregiver's self-perception when it
falls short of their ideal self.